I've been trying to come up with relationship topics to feature on this blog. Recently, I posted on Facebook a couple of topics looking for feedback, which I got. I met with a friend for lunch, and I chatted online with a recently made acquaintance about a similar situation we had been through. This all in addition to taking into consideration the talks I have had with friends and family members through the years.
With all the talking and exchanging of correspondences, especially lately, I realized the most important thing when trying to figure out this confusing world of dating is communication, especially when trying to get over a particular person or past hurts in general.
You may not always have the opportunity to talk to the person that broke your heart, or even a brand new love interest, but it sure can help when you talk to the people in your life.
When you reach a certain age, where the world of dating leaves you lost and confused, whether you are recently divorced or just coming out of a dating sabbatical, after the experiences and reading all the information from the experts out there, sit back, relax and talk to people. You may feel like a teenager or college girl again, but just like when you were younger, it helps to talk about it.
Talk to your friends of the same sex, friends of the opposite sex, family members, friends of friends, anyone that you feel may have shared a similar journey to you.
When you're confused or heartbroken, at first you will say others' stories are similar to yours but not the same. You may even claim that no one understands what you've been through. You may even hear yourself utter the words that other guys are like that but not this guy. However, as the confusion or the heartbreak starts becoming a distant memory, you'll start to realize that those stories are more similar to your situation than you once cared to admit. You'll start realizing you're not the only one. You are not alone.
And along the way, you may find someone whose situation seems exactly like yours. Their feelings about the situation resonate with you, and how they put the person behind them and found love with another, well it will inspire you. That of course being the most important if you're looking for love--to be able to move forward in life with an open heart.
Sometimes we're embarrassed to admit the mistakes that we have made in romantic relationships, or we think that other's will find our feelings silly. However, like any problem you may encounter, you'll find so many others have been through the same thing you have been in romance.
Keep talking, keep writing, keep communicating. That's how I finally came to the conclusion that the guy that I once thought I had the potential to fall in love with a year ago wasn't for me. I didn't need a talk with him, and I didn't even need to get under someone else to get over him like the saying goes. What I needed to do was feel comfortable to express my feelings, and when I did that, I realized the only thing I needed was to talk with and listen to the people who are there for me and understand me.
